Family Mediation & Emotions

Family Mediation can be a difficult and emotional process. After all, it usually arises out of a separation and in those circumstances, emotions are often at the surface, particularly when one side feels aggrieved and left behind.

Family Mediation is, however, the process that is most likely to bring about long-lasting resolution to a family law dispute, particularly if it is conducted with care and expertise, and both parties participate in it based on the principle of balance, fairness and self-determination. It often involves the parties telling one another how they feel and what they need from the other party to be able to move on. This dialogue is frequently the key to getting to the core of the dispute and then resolving it.

A skilled mediator is trained and prepared to deal with the ebbs and flows of emotion that inevitably come when sensitive subjects are discussed. There may be tears and even some anger. Perhaps sharp words and often plain discomfort. All these are part of the process and are moderated by the mediator so that they “do not get out of hand”. Expressing emotion is to be a productive process - aimed at resolving the dispute, not making anyone truly uncomfortable or unduly pressured.

A skilled Family Mediator knows how to handle those situations. Each party is free and even encouraged for ask for a break. The pace of the mediation depends on the a whole host of factors including, importantly, the emotional needs of the parties to the dialogue.

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